Center for Relational Recovery

Because change happens in relationship.

If you are struggling with sexual addiction your sexual behavior may feel compulsive or out-of-control. It may be creating negative consequences in your life and relationships that is causing pain for you and those you love. If you are the partner of a sex addict, you may be feeling intense pain resulting from experiencing betrayal, and confusion about what is happening and what to do next.

If you or someone you love are struggling with sexual addiction there is hope. Your relationships can heal, life can regain meaning and purpose and sex can once again become a source of life-giving joy.

Sex Addiction

Partners of Sex Addicts

Anger and Betrayal: Anger is a Catalyst

In the same way that anger is a messenger, it is also a catalyst. Merriam-Webster defines a catalyst as “an agent that provokes or speeds significant change or action.” In other words, anger lets us know that something needs to change. Something about our current situation is not serving us well, and corrective action is […] [Read More...]

Anger and Betrayal: Anger is a Messenger

Anger is the emotional response that moves through our bodies when we are faced with injustice, betrayal, or violation. In her book Atlas of the Heart, Brené Brown says, “If you look across the research, you learn that anger is an emotion that we feel when something gets in the way of a desired outcome […] [Read More...]

Anger and Betrayal: The Hidden Gifts

First comes discovery of sexual betrayal. Then comes anger. Anger does not arrive gently or slowly. It roars in like a flash flood, sweeping everything up in its path, uncontrolled and uncontained. Anger roils through us, erupting from our bodies, shocking those around us and even shocking ourselves. When I experienced my own story of […] [Read More...]

All About Betrayal Trauma – Podcast Interview with Jodi White, LPC

Recently I joined Jodi White, LPC on her podcast, Journals of a Love Addict, for a discussion on betrayal trauma. Read the episode description and listen below! “We might think we know the meaning of the term “betrayal”, but what actually happens when we’re truly betrayed by the person closest to us? In this episode, […] [Read More...]

Stay or Leave: Shamed If You Do, Shamed If You Don’t

shamed woman with many fingers pointing at her

In the last two posts we’ve been looking at the complex issues that partners face when deciding whether to stay or leave the relationship with the cheater. Instead of focusing on the outcome – staying or leaving – I’m encouraging us to instead focus on how we make the decision. We want to decide to […] [Read More...]

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