Enter search terms and press Return

close

Welcome to the Center for Relational Recovery

Each week we publish a new blog post covering topics related to addiction, betrayal trauma, relationships, and recovery. Included in these posts are a monthly reading recommendation spotlighting two books that we think should not be missed as well as a post pointing you to helpful recovery resources and information.

Sign up below to receive CRR’s weekly blog post.

  • Each week we publish a new blog post covering topics related to addiction, betrayal trauma, relationships, and recovery. Included in these posts are a monthly reading recommendation spotlighting two books that we think should not be missed as well as a post pointing you to helpful recovery resources and information.

    Sign up below to receive CRR’s weekly blog post.

  • Hidden
  • Hidden
    MM slash DD slash YYYY

If you do not receive the confirmation message within a few minutes of signing up, please check your Spam folder just in case the confirmation email got delivered there instead of your inbox. If so, select the confirmation message and click Not Spam, which will allow future messages to get through.

close

Center for Relational Recovery

Contact Us Today
  • Who We Are
    • Clinical Team
  • What We Treat
  • Braving Hope™
  • Intensives
  • Disclosure Prep
    • Disclosure Prep Couples Workshop
    • Disclosure Prep Clinical Resources
    • My Account
  • Workshops
    • My Account
  • Resources
    • Calendar
    • Blog
    • Bookshelf
    • YouTube Channel
    • 12 Step Fellowships

Sex Addiction & Partner Trauma Treatment FAQ

Do I have to come with my spouse/partner? What if I just want to come for me?

Experience tells us that if you are in a long-term relationship your best chance for successful long-term recovery as an individual and your best chance for restoration in your relationship comes through working on the process of recovery both together and individually.

That being said, sometimes both people are not yet ready to jump in, or the finances can only support one person in therapy at a time, or there is mistrust that both parties will be treated equally.

If you are not able or ready to come in as a couple and want to come in and begin work yourself individually, please do. We will work with you where you are at and hold the door open for your partner if and when they choose to join you.


How am I going to afford all this?

We understand that treatment is expensive. For a while, treatment will need to become a line item in your budget as you work through the phases of recovery. At CRR we work very hard to keep the costs of treatment as low as possible understanding that it is a lot for an individual or couple to do. Some things that can help with the costs:

  • If you have out-of-network benefits you can submit for reimbursement. If you get a negative response from your insurance company about a claim you have submitted please call your therapist and discuss it with them as they may be able to help you resubmit the claim successfully.
  • We have had clients change their insurance plans during open enrollment to increase their out-of-network benefits to help with the costs of treatment. Take advantage of open enrollment to make changes that will help cover costs during the period that you will be in treatment.
  • We accept Health Savings Account and Flexible Spending Account credit cards. Making changes to increase amounts designated to HSAs or FSAs during the course of treatment can also reduce the costs.
  • For clients who are significantly struggling financially (single moms with kids and low-wage jobs; unemployed households etc.) we may be able to lower our fees for a portion of treatment. Decisions to slide the fee scale are made on a case by case basis and at the discretion of CRR.
  • Take advantage of the workshops offered at CRR. We have created a number of 3.5 hour workshops that provide clients with a ton of information in a short period of time and teach them the different models that will be used with them in individual and group therapy. Attending the workshops is a much faster and less expensive way to learn the information rather than doing it in individual therapy. If you can’t afford to come to a workshop talk to your therapist as occasional scholarships are provided.

I would like to do individual therapy but not group. Can I still participate in treatment?

Group Therapy is the heart of treatment at the Center for Relational Recovery. Research shows that group is the most effective modality for treating addiction. Group provides a laboratory to learn and practice healing the underlying attachment wounds from childhood and developing the ability to connect, engage and be present in relationships with the self and others. We learn the most about ourselves when we are in relationship with others, allowing them to see us and opening ourselves to knowing who they are. Clients of CRR who are being treated for sex addiction or partner trauma are expected to participate in group therapy throughout their time in treatment.


Individual, group and couple’s therapy seems like a lot of therapy! How do these all work together?

We agree! It is a lot of work and a lot of therapy and we are constantly refining our treatment program to try to streamline it and make it as effective as possible. Treatment changes over time and is adjusted as different issues come up. For example, you may be doing individual therapy and then hit a bump where you as a couple need extra support. Therapy would shift and individual work might be put on hold while some couple’s sessions are held and things stabilize again and then individual work would be resumed. Flexibility is the name of the game as we work with you to determine what the best intervention is at each stage of the process.


What if I want to work with you but my spouse wants to work with a therapist outside of CRR?

CRR collaborates with outside treatment professionals on a regular basis. If your spouse/partner is working with an outside therapist, we will ask for appropriate releases to be signed and then we will partner with that therapist to help you and your partner move through recovery. The only time we do not partner with outside therapists is during Disclosure. Our policy is to do Disclosure in house only due to the highly sensitive nature of the process and the rigorous training needed to facilitate Disclosures effectively.


Where Do I Start?

Treatment begins with an intake appointment and then an assessment process.

  • Intake Appointment
    If you are married or in a long term relationship and your spouse/partner is able to come with you to the intake appointment that is preferred as it allows us to hear the story of what is happening in the relationship from both of you together. If you are single or your partner is unable to come to the appointment that is fine as well. To schedule an intake appointment please call 571-442-1898.
  • Assessment
    The assessment process usually takes 2-3 appointments. Those struggling with sexually compulsive behaviors will be asked to take an online assessment called the Sexual Dependency Inventory (SDI). The SDI is several instruments combined into one assessment and provides information about:

    • Levels of compulsivity experienced
    • Discriminates between addictive and non-addictive behaviors
    • Types of behaviors and elements of one’s arousal template
    • Readiness for change
    • Impact on various areas of life
    • Attachment style in relationships

    Along with the SDI, a thorough bio-psycho-social assessment will be conducted and a relational and sexual history gathered.

    If you are the partner, you may be asked to take an online assessment called the Inventory for Partner Attachment, Stress and Trauma (IPAST). The IPAST helps us to assess the ways in which your life has been impacted by sex addiction and degrees of severity.

    Along with the IPAST, a thorough bio-psycho-social assessment will be conducted and a crisis and risk assessment undergone in order to assess the level of support and intervention needed to manage the current crisis.

  • Couples Treatment Review Appointment
    After the assessment process is completed with both individuals we bring the couple back together to discuss the results of the assessment process and to review the recommended treatment plan. Confidential information gathered during assessment is not shared, however an overview of the assessment results is discussed and next steps are planned. The couple/individual then makes a decision about whether or not to begin treatment.

Sign up to receive blog posts, news and event information.

Email Signup

  • Sexual Addiction
  • Betrayal Trauma
  • Recovering Relationships

Blog & Events

Why We Sherlock, Part 1

Yes, I did. I just turned Sherlock into a verb. Someone slap a trademark on that for me, … [Read More...]

CRR Blog is Moving

You may have noticed that there is not much being posted here on the Center for Relational Recovery … [Read More...]

Resisting The Temptation To Isolate After Betrayal

In the aftermath of betrayal, it can be tempting to isolate – curling into yourself and hiding away … [Read More...]

Setting Realistic Expectations After Betrayal

In the aftermath of betrayal, your body and mind are struggling with an ongoing trauma response. As … [Read More...]

The Cheating Partner’s Moment of Truth

Two things motivate change in human beings: fear and desire. After the crisis of betrayal, fear is … [Read More...]

Center for Relational Recovery

(571) 442-1898

Leesburg Location
201 Liberty St. SW
Leesburg, VA 20175

New Client Forms
Email Signup
Search Website

© Copyright 2016 Center for Relational Recovery. All Rights Reserved.
Small Business Websites by 5.12 Design Lab • Admin
Terms Of Use • Privacy Policy

Center for Relational Recovery offers the information on this website, inclusive of but not limited to text, images and other material, for informational purposes only. This information should not be taken as advice or specific treatment recommendations; nor should it be used under any circumstances for diagnostic purposes. You are encouraged to make any health-related decisions in consultation with your qualified health care provider. Treatment results may vary from person to person.

▲