Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal: The Essential Tools for Healing by Kevin Skinner Dr. Kevin Skinner provides readers with a deeper understanding as to why a partner's sexual behaviors outside of a committed relationship create posttraumatic stress disorder-like symptoms. Through his book, you will better understand why betrayal triggers trauma, discover the tools needed for healing, and how … [Read more...]
March Recommended Reading
Fierce Intimacy by Terry Real (Audible Audiobook) I’m bringing you an audio-book this month because, why not? Terry Real is someone whose books I have recommended in past months. He is a master couple’s therapist and writes and speaks eloquently about how to do intimacy well. In this audio-book, Terry helps couples understand the issues creating conflict or disconnection in their … [Read more...]
January Recommended Reading
Daring to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. By Brene Brown If you have not yet picked up something by Brene Brown and been wowed by it, this might be your time. Building on her research and writing on shame, vulnerability and how to show up, be present and operate from your most authentic self, Brene now addresses these issues in the workplace. If you think about how much … [Read more...]
December Recommended Reading
When It All Breaks Bad: Ten Things to Do (and not do) After Betrayal by Michelle D. Mays If you are a betrayed partner who has recently experienced the discovery of cheating or sexual acting out behavior in your relationship, this book is designed to give you some clear direction and support. The book takes you through ten recommended things to do after discovering betrayal and also points you … [Read more...]
November Recommended Reading
A House Interrupted by Maurita Corcoran If you are a betrayed partner, this memoir of recovery is for you. In this book, Maurita Corcoran tells her story from the moments of discovery of her spouse’s sexual addiction and cheating behaviors through the process of healing and repair. How Can I Get Through to You: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women by Terrence Real Terry … [Read more...]
August Recomended Reading
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver Do you know about the Love Lab? In the 1980s, at the University of Washington, Dr. John Gottman created what became known as the Love Lab to research the way couples interact with each other. In a groundbreaking approach, Gottman and his co-researcher Robert Levenson, asked couples to live and interact in an … [Read more...]
July Recommended Reading
Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain by Rona B. Subotnik and Gloria Harris This book is an oldie but goodie. It has been around for years but has stood the test of time and is still relevant today for those healing from infidelity. The beginning of the book can be particularly helpful for those who are dealing with emotional affairs. The authors devote a section to … [Read more...]
On Recovery and the Love of Old Books
By: Robert Rubinow, LPC Perusing the musty pages and yellowed dustjackets of my home library recently, I was struck by remembrances of elegant passages that once helped ease dark moments of pain in my life. Some were tickets for voyages to far-away places I could escape to in my imagination when I felt afraid. Other passages lifted my perspective so I could see a clearer horizon beyond the … [Read more...]
June Recommended Reading
Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships by Dr. Sue Johnson Sue Johnson is the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, an attachment-based approach that helps couple build a safe bond with one another that allows intimacy to flourish. While Johnson has written several books on EFT this is her most popular seller as it provides an eye-opening … [Read more...]
May Recommended Reading
Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love by Pia Mellody First published over 15 years ago, this book is still the go-to resource for understanding love addiction and love avoidance. Pia Mellody masterfully lays out a clear understanding of how the attachment patterns of love addiction and avoidance manifest in relationships, helping the reader identify each … [Read more...]