Over the coming weeks we want to introduce you to members of CRR’s Clinical Team who you may not yet know. This week we invite you to take a few minutes to get to know a little bit more about Robert Rubinow. Robert Rubinow is a Licensed Professional Counselor with the Center for Relational Recovery. Robert has many years of experience (both clinically and pastorally) treating individuals and … [Read more...]
February Recommended Reading
Drinking: A Love Story by Caroline Knapp This memoir about alcoholism and its effects is a gripping read, pulling you into the author’s story and immersing you in her ongoing affair with drinking. Caroline Knapp was what we often refer to as a ‘functional alcoholic’. She was successful at her job, had friendships and relationships. But her hidden life revolved around the next drink and the … [Read more...]
Spotlight on Recovery Resources and Inspiration…
I’ve recently discovered a great podcast called Thanks for Sharing. Dubbing their program as “the place for all things recovery, healing, and relationships,” the podcast Thanks for Sharing is hosted by Jonathan Taylor and Jackie Pack. Their style is warm and conversational as they interview guests or discuss their own issue of the day. Both Jonathan and Jackie are therapists - licensed clinical … [Read more...]
January Recommended Reading
Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions By Russell Brand If you are not familiar with Russell Brand allow me to introduce you. He is an English comedian, actor and activist who is a little bit on the intense and zany side. In addition, he is 15 years sober from alcohol and drugs and is also a recovering sex addict. In 2017, Brand published the book Recovery: Freedom from our Addictions and … [Read more...]
Betrayal Blindness
As someone who has experienced betrayal, I am guessing that somewhere along the way someone used the word “denial” with you. Maybe you were told you that you were in denial, or that you needed to get out of denial. And in reality, denial can be a very dangerous place to be, or to stay long term. However, I believe that a better way to think about the issue of denial is to look at it through the … [Read more...]
Happy New Year!
Happy New Year! The New Year brings fresh beginnings. Here are some exciting new things happening at CRR as we start 2018. We are welcoming two new therapists onto our clinical team. Robert Rubinow is a Licensed Professional Counselor with over 20 years in the counseling field specializing in working with individuals and couples dealing with the harmful effects of pornography and sexual … [Read more...]
Getting Educated, Part2: It’s A Marathon Not A Sprint
Educating yourself about betrayal is just like everything else in the healing process: a marathon not a sprint. Nevertheless, many of the betrayed partners I treat tell me almost immediately that they have read everything there is to read about sexual addiction and partner trauma, and they know all there is to know about these topics. I do believe that they have read a lot, but I do not believe … [Read more...]
This Christmas
This Christmas, mend a quarrel. Seek out a forgotten friend. Dismiss suspicion, and replace it with trust. Write a love letter. Share some treasure. Give a soft answer. Encourage youth. Manifest your loyalty in word and deed. Keep a promise. Find the time. Forgo a grudge. Forgive an enemy. Listen. Apologize if you were wrong. Try to understand. Flout envy. Examine your demands on … [Read more...]
Getting Educated, Part 1: Pace Yourself Sweetheart
When I was in graduate school we had to go on a day-long silent retreat. I was just beginning to understand that my spouse was dealing with sexual addiction, and I was trying to find material to read that might help me get my head around this fact. At that time, there were very few books for betrayed partners to choose from, but I finally found one. At the retreat, instead of meditating, … [Read more...]
December Recommended Reading
Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing From Sex, Love and Porn Addiction By Robert Weiss Rob Weiss has written a number of books on sex and porn addiction. This recent gem is a quick read that provides you with a basic primer for understanding sex addiction. You can read the entire book, or you can dive into chapters dealing with specific topics that may feel relevant for you. For … [Read more...]