Happy New Year! The New Year brings fresh beginnings. Here are some exciting new things happening at CRR as we start 2018. We are welcoming two new therapists onto our clinical team. Robert Rubinow is a Licensed Professional Counselor with over 20 years in the counseling field specializing in working with individuals and couples dealing with the harmful effects of pornography and sexual … [Read more...]
Getting Educated, Part2: It’s A Marathon Not A Sprint
Educating yourself about betrayal is just like everything else in the healing process: a marathon not a sprint. Nevertheless, many of the betrayed partners I treat tell me almost immediately that they have read everything there is to read about sexual addiction and partner trauma, and they know all there is to know about these topics. I do believe that they have read a lot, but I do not believe … [Read more...]
This Christmas
This Christmas, mend a quarrel. Seek out a forgotten friend. Dismiss suspicion, and replace it with trust. Write a love letter. Share some treasure. Give a soft answer. Encourage youth. Manifest your loyalty in word and deed. Keep a promise. Find the time. Forgo a grudge. Forgive an enemy. Listen. Apologize if you were wrong. Try to understand. Flout envy. Examine your demands on … [Read more...]
Getting Educated, Part 1: Pace Yourself Sweetheart
When I was in graduate school we had to go on a day-long silent retreat. I was just beginning to understand that my spouse was dealing with sexual addiction, and I was trying to find material to read that might help me get my head around this fact. At that time, there were very few books for betrayed partners to choose from, but I finally found one. At the retreat, instead of meditating, … [Read more...]
December Recommended Reading
Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing From Sex, Love and Porn Addiction By Robert Weiss Rob Weiss has written a number of books on sex and porn addiction. This recent gem is a quick read that provides you with a basic primer for understanding sex addiction. You can read the entire book, or you can dive into chapters dealing with specific topics that may feel relevant for you. For … [Read more...]
Foreboding Joy
Recently, I was listening to an audio recording of Brené Brown, Ph.D. As many of you know, she researches and speaks about issues of shame, vulnerability and wholehearted living. In this recording, she was discussing what she calls “foreboding joy.” “Foreboding” is not a word we hear all that often, so I looked it up in the dictionary. I wanted to know the exact meaning so that I could better … [Read more...]
Are We There Yet?
Every parent has heard the familiar plea from a child on a long car ride, “Are we there yet?” Young children don’t have a way to measure time, they have no sense of how long it will take to get to the destination, and sometimes don’t know what the destination looks like or what the family is going to do when they finally get there. No matter how many movies, games, and snacks, the ride keeps … [Read more...]
The Aftermath of Betrayal
Nothing can prepare you for the moment you discover that the person closest to you, the person you count on the most, has betrayed you. If you have experienced betrayal, you need help navigating the emotional devastation that follows. And, even more importantly, you need hope. The Aftermath of Betrayal, is intended to help you identify and articulate the experience you are having. To give you … [Read more...]
Spotlight on Recovery Resources and Inspiration…
SEXUAL HEALTH FOR SENIORS Recently, CRR was asked to come and talk to an ‘over-55’ community about sexual health for seniors. Our Project Coordinator, Jessica Perry, researched and prepared a worksheet of information to share as part of this talk. For this month’s spotlight post, we are featuring some of the information gathered and compiled by Jessica around the topics of safe sex and online … [Read more...]
October Recommended Reading
Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction by Alexandra Katehakis Do not be put off by the words “ignite” and “hot” in the title of this book, as it is not what it may seem at first glance. Rather than a “how-to” sex guide, this is a book about sexuality viewed through the lens of sex as a respectful, healthy and safe attachment through connection and … [Read more...]